Posted Under: Dating for Men and Women,Relationships
If you need to regain trust in your relationship, then prepare yourself for an uphill climb!
This is not to say that it can’t be done, just that it will take some serious time and effort. If you lack the commitment to do so, then you might as well give up right now, and save both you and your partner some needless pain.
Trust can be destroyed in a relationship for a number of reasons. Sometimes, the causes can be relatively minor, such as belittling one’s partner in front of others. Other times, such as in the case of infidelity, it is much more severe. In such cases, loss of trust can be nearly impossible to overcome.
If you’re willing to make the effort, the first step in re-establishing trust is to determine what you may have done to break that trust.
If it was infidelity, then it’s pretty obvious. If it was something less severe, such as sharing personal information about your partner or speaking of him or her in an unflattering way to others, then you may need to do some digging.
The most important thing to find out is why you erred in such a fashion. Such betrayals may be an indication of some deep-seated resentment towards your partner. You will need to root out this issue before you can make a positive change.
If infidelity is the problem, then you need to determine why you strayed. Quite often it’s about much more than just being attracted to someone else; if not a sign of a character flaw, it is an indication that you are somehow unhappy with your present relationship.
In any event, the first step towards rebuilding trust in your relationship is to identify the mistakes you made so that you can avoid repeating them.
It will require a considerable commitment from your partner to once again trust you, and you certainly don’t want to repay them by betraying them a second time. Before you ask for forgiveness be sure you’re up to the challenge of earning it.
Once you have put your finger on the problem and have taken action to ensure that it never again happens, it’s time to have a talk with your partner. Explain how you have been working on yourself and resolving your issues and ask for another chance. Even if the answer is yes, realize that you’ll still be on a form of “probation” for some time to come.
Your partner may be a little paranoid for some time to come, and that’s justifiable. You should expect it. Be aware that it may take a while for them to let their guard down entirely. You must be willing and able to show them proof that you have truly changed yourself in the meantime.
Regaining trust in your relationship will require time, patience, and most of all love. It’s possible if both parties are equally committed, but the process must be entered into with eyes wide open and with no expectation of a quick fix.