Posted Under: Breaking Up & Making Up,Dating for Men
Winning your ex back can be a tricky thing. You can simply scare her away if you come on too strong. If you seem too desperate or always available, she may simply have fun exploring her options and see you as an always available “Plan B” in case things don’t work out.
All this time she could string you along as she pursues one dating partner after another.
On the other hand, if you appear to be indifferent, it could merely confirm to her that your relationship is over and that she should look for someone else. Either way, your relationship is history!
Fortunately, there is a happy medium. You can let your ex know that you’re available for a reconciliation, without looking like you’re sitting around the house waiting for her to call.
The first step towards avoiding seeming desperate is to end all contact with your former lover. This means not calling, texting, e-mailing or “just happening” to show up in the places your ex frequents. Just give your ex her space.
Not seeming too available is essential if you don’t want her to think of you as her handy backup plan.
Isn’t there a danger that she’ll forget about you? No, because if you follow this advice, she’re likely to hear a lot about you from mutual friends.
The next step is to discard any ideas you may have of making her jealous. Instead, she may simply conclude that you are no longer available and write you off.
Even if you do succeed in making her jealous, it doesn’t mean that this will make her get back with you. If she did get back with you, she’d be doing so for the wrong reasons and your relationship probably wouldn’t last.
The key thing is to just go out there and live your life to the fullest, even if that seems incredibly hard right now. Go out with friends and family. Do some of the things you’ve always wanted to do but never had a chance when you were in your old relationship. Recommit yourself to your fitness program, learn a new skill, or redecorate your house.
If you always wanted to go on a trip, why not do so now? Not only will this make you a more confident person, it will help you to get your mind off of your old relationship. If you send postcards to all of your friends while on your trip, chances are your ex will hear about all the fun you been having, and this will be intriguing to her.
Above all, these things help you to grow as a person. Every time you try something new, perhaps something that even scares you a little, you become a better, more well-rounded person, and a more interesting one as well. This will be of invaluable aid in all areas of your life, not only in getting your ex back.
Ironically, concentrating on living your life to the fullest is actually the best way to get your ex back. After all, people tend to be drawn to active, fun-loving, interesting people. No one is drawn to someone who comes across as desperate or needy. Which of these two types do you want to be?